Leaderly Quote: Stop making yourself small
By Jo Miller
“Stop making yourself small so others can feel big.”
— Tara Jaye Frank.
This favorite quote comes directly from Tara’s article,
5 Things Women Leaders Should Stop Doing. TODAY.
It resonated strongly for me, and has become something of a personal mantra. I pinned the quote to the top of my Twitter feed so that I would see it as a daily reminder, and it has gone on to receive 87 retweets and 115 likes.
Here’s a snippet from Tara’s original article:
Stop making yourself small so someone else can feel big.
Ever meet someone who seems more comfortable when you’re quiet, disengaged, or otherwise minimized? Does it feel easier to hang back, because when you lean forward, he or she becomes defensive and starts angling for position? Newsflash: That’s not your problem, and you shouldn’t limit your contribution to make others feel better about theirs. Let me be clear. I’m not suggesting you abandon discernment and get all high and mighty. I’m talking about refusing to shrink in order to enhance another’s sense of importance. The most self-respecting way to help others is to truly help them – by sharing your ideas, offering your talents, and lending your energy and support. You don’t serve anyone by diminishing yourself.
Powerful stuff! I hope it’s as transformational for you as it has been for me.
P.S. Tara is available for consulting, speaking and coaching engagements.
Jo Miller
Jo Miller is a globally renowned authority on women’s leadership. She’s dedicated two decades to helping women advance into positions of influence by leveraging their leadership strengths. Based on her work with hundreds of thousands of women, she developed a pragmatic and powerful roadmap that guides women to become the leaders they aspire to be. Jo shares this proven process in her book Woman of Influence: 9 Steps to Build Your Brand, Establish Your Legacy, and Thrive (McGraw Hill, 2019.)
Jo is CEO of leadership development, consulting and research firm Be Leaderly. Learn more about her speaking engagements at www.JoMiller.com and follow @Jo_Miller on Twitter.

By Jo Miller
“Stop making yourself small so others can feel big.”
— Tara Jaye Frank.
This favorite quote comes directly from Tara’s article,
5 Things Women Leaders Should Stop Doing. TODAY.
It resonated strongly for me, and has become something of a personal mantra. I pinned the quote to the top of my Twitter feed so that I would see it as a daily reminder, and it has gone on to receive 87 retweets and 115 likes.
Here’s a snippet from Tara’s original article:
Stop making yourself small so someone else can feel big.
Ever meet someone who seems more comfortable when you’re quiet, disengaged, or otherwise minimized? Does it feel easier to hang back, because when you lean forward, he or she becomes defensive and starts angling for position? Newsflash: That’s not your problem, and you shouldn’t limit your contribution to make others feel better about theirs. Let me be clear. I’m not suggesting you abandon discernment and get all high and mighty. I’m talking about refusing to shrink in order to enhance another’s sense of importance. The most self-respecting way to help others is to truly help them – by sharing your ideas, offering your talents, and lending your energy and support. You don’t serve anyone by diminishing yourself.
Powerful stuff! I hope it’s as transformational for you as it has been for me.
P.S. Tara is available for consulting, speaking and coaching engagements.

Jo Miller
Jo Miller is a globally renowned authority on women’s leadership. She’s dedicated two decades to helping women advance into positions of influence by leveraging their leadership strengths. Based on her work with hundreds of thousands of women, she developed a pragmatic and powerful roadmap that guides women to become the leaders they aspire to be. Jo shares this proven process in her book Woman of Influence: 9 Steps to Build Your Brand, Establish Your Legacy, and Thrive (McGraw Hill, 2019.)
Jo is CEO of leadership development, consulting and research firm Be Leaderly. Learn more about her speaking engagements at www.JoMiller.com and follow @Jo_Miller on Twitter.